common questions & answers!
Why is this ceremony primarily for young people celebrating their 13th and 16th birthdays?
In most cultures throughout history, when a child turned 13 they began the process of entering adulthood. Religious and cultural groups have held ceremonies for 13 year olds for generations (e.g. the Jewish Bar or Bat Mitzvah, or Roman Catholic Confirmation) as it has normally been the age most associated with the onset of puberty and the entering of adolescence. In North America, there is no consensus as to what milestone or age signifies the move from childhood to adulthood. Many of these markers are connected to the age identified by when you can cast a vote, purchase or consume alcohol, get your driver's license, or be tried an adult in a court of law. "Sweet 16" seems to another significant age in the development of a young person when a coming of age ceremony is culturally and socially appropriate. There are three questions to ask when considering what birthday to plan a coming of age ceremony...Is the child mature enough to understand what the ceremony involves? Are the parents more comfortable with one age (13 or 16) over another? Is it logistically possible to plan a coming of age ceremony and birthday party within the time frame required? (Normally 3-6 months or more is required to secure a venue, contact and confirm all participants, send invitations, and care for all other details)
What is the cost?
The fee for the coming of age ceremony package is available by contacting Celebrating Adolescent Life and includes the following...
- one face- to-face Ceremony Consultation with your Celebrant
- a ceremony planning guide
- unlimited phone and online support from your Celebrant
- the memorable coming of age ceremony led by your Celebrant
- a beautifully framed adolescent manifesto (for 16 year olds) or thirteenity manifesto (for 13 year olds)
How long is a coming of age ceremony?
The ceremony lasts about 25-30 minutes depending on then amount of content chosen by each family. The ceremony can be included in the middle of a larger birthday party where students enjoy games, dancing, gift giving, and refreshments.
We are not a particularly religious family - do we have to include any religious content in the ceremony?
Families are free to choose whatever content fits their values, style, and personality. There are spiritual elements that could be included that do not align specifically with any particular denomination or church, or the ceremony could be totally non-denominational.
What does the Celebrant wear to the ceremony?
We normally dress "business professional" or "business casual" - whatever is most appropriate for your celebration.
Can we include others in the ceremony?
Absolutely! We encourage the involvement of extended family members, peers, and significant adults (teachers, club leaders, athletic coaches, employers, mentors, etc.)
Can we choose a male or female Celebrant if we have a preference?
Yes! We encourage you to book early, as some Celebrant's schedules fill up quickly and they may not be available.
